I’ve already heard her saying I’m not friendly and I don’t know who should I react.

I don’t understand why we can’t just do our jobs and go home.

Self aggrandizing people being gossipy and passive aggressive…sounds like grad school.

Barbara Ehrenreich wrote a great book about this called Nickel and Dimed. She was a full time journalist and set out to get a job at a diner and find a place to live on the salary. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nickel_and_Dimed

Matthew Desmond’s books Evicted and Poverty, By America are amazing, well researched, easily readable books about poverty in the US. I can’t recommend them enough. https://www.npr.org/2023/03/17/1158230630/poverty-by-america-book-review-matthew-desmond-evicted

Being born there, living your entire life there, your whole family and all your friends are there, you went to high school and college there so it’s easier to transfer to a CSU for grad school, and cheaper because you won’t have to pay non-resident fees, etc etc. The same reason people don’t move from other places. Besides, it takes a lot of savings to move, especially out of state, especially when you have to keep going back and forth to look at places. There’s also just not wanting to move. I am really not ok with being forced out of my home and away from my family because of bullshit like this.

And yes the weather really is that good - in Southern California.

It’s true, but perfection is still the enemy of progress.

I’d remind you that lots of doctors made a lot of money by unnecessarily prescribing Oxycontin that the spiraled into the opioid crisis.

Wait, so where were these insurance companies then and why weren’t they acting as “checks” on these doctors? It couldn’t have just been a minor oversight by the insurance companies either, considering it did spiral into a nationwide crisis.

Used to be one in Citrus Heights. It was gross. Wouldn’t expect any less.

This is a great metaphor for why psychiatry is pseudoscience

What I don’t understand is how some states charge the same excise tax rate on stop smoking aids that they do on cigarettes and vapes. For example, California’s is like 25% at least, and I think that’s the lowest of the states with the excise tax on “tobacco.” I thought the whole point of taxation was to get people to quit? But it’s only on stuff like Zyn and One pouches, Rogue gum, etc. which are tobacco free, while Nicorette as a brand seems to be exempt from excise tax. Their products are exactly the same, but twice as expensive and work half as well. It’s also counterproductive to have to go to vape shops to buy nicotine gum and pouches because California has made it impossible to get them shipped. Obviously getting people to quit is not the real goal.

Would still be a little difficult for people living in apartments. I always think about this when it comes to EVs, and owning “dumb” cars and maintaining them yourself, which I would like to do. My apartment complex has 3 or 4 EV chargers, which are assigned. So you would have to rent the apartment that comes with the EV spot, which I’m sure makes the rent go up by far more than it’s worth. And no way is there room to work on your own car within the assigned spaces. No guest parking either. I guess it’s just more stuff to add to the “cycle of poverty” list

Students were given the opportunity

Funny way to phrase that.

Sociologist Matthew Desmond has an amazing book called Evicted that talks about criminal act evictions and profiles people who have been the target of them. The book follows very low income renters in Milwaukee through years of their struggles to find and keep housing. It also follows individual landlords from the same neighborhoods. It’s technically an academic subject and is impeccably researched (the notes section in the back could be its own book) but it reads like a novel. It won a Pulitzer iirc.

He also just published Poverty, By America last year. I’ve only just started it, but it’s just as readable. He explains overly-complicated regulations and social services red tape in a way that’s concise and easy to understand, and he illustrates their consequences through his interviews with real people. His books should be required reading for every American.

I would not go to grad school. Especially not in the city the program was in. Unless you’re an MBA or in engineering or something ultimately pretty lucrative, I wouldn’t recommend Academia Extended Stay to any sane person who values their own time, money, and dignity.

If I had to do it again, I would have gone for a more specific skill. Not the skilled trades. I know everyone’s all about that now, but we weren’t all born to be electricians. Just something more specific like a counselor, Auto CAD, etc etc

parent plus,

We both worked, my job and hers gave us combined income

That’s so nice for you that you had other people to carry your debt burden for you.

While someone’s $50k of student loans could be “forgiven”, it means that year they will have an additional $50k worth of “income” on their taxes and will be taxed like any regular income would

Maybe one of the best examples of “the cruelty is the point.” Jesus.

Allen Ertel, a Congressman from Pennsylvania, pushed to make student loans hard to discharge. Ertel was in the U.S. House of Representatives from 1977 to 1983. Despite stats showing less than 1% of federal student loans were ever wiped clean in bankruptcy, Ertel argued student loan defaults were jumping up. His convincing talk changed the rules, making student loans stick around after bankruptcy unless the borrower faced severe hardship.

This is from the first google result. Just like the other comments are saying, he altered bills that came decades after the original legislation.

But at least he’s doing something now. That’s more than conservatives can say, since they will do and say anything to make everyone else as miserable as they are.

I always feel cheated as an asexual/aromantic person. We shouldn’t be forced to live with roommates for the rest of our lives just because we don’t want to get married, which isn’t really a choice, it’s just our orientation like anyone else’s. It’s also so much harder when neurodivergence and/or social anxiety is an issue.

No one should be forced to get married or have roommates (or both) just to keep a roof over their heads. Everyone is entitled to have a little bit of privacy and comfort in their lives, especially if they work hard for it.

I can’t believe I feel like I have to justify the desire for a studio apartment with no roommates.

I know, I think this a lot when I’m on here. Especially the whole “don’t vote for Biden because Israel” thing. I just saw some comments saying that Trump would be better to have as president because he’s just dumber and wouldn’t be able to carry out any kind of war. I honestly can’t tell anymore whether a real person would actually say that.

Thanks for talking about it. It’s more than I could do. It’s interesting and aggravating to have spent most of your life in a certain situation, then working to help other people in that situation, then studying it…then reading a bunch of comments by people arguing over it who are so certain they’re all right when it’s obvious that most of them have never come close to experiencing it.

This must be what it feels like to be a lawyer and have to talk to a sovereign citizen or something.

I think about this every day.

I thought their whole reason behind repealing Roe v. Wade was about “letting the states decide.” Of course that was total bullshit, otherwise this wouldn’t even be a question.