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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • Your talk of big feelings resonates with me–historically I’ve been the same way. In my case, I eventually realized that I was putting so much of myself into relationships (or even potential relationships) because I didn’t have many other strong relationships in my life (similar situation–far from family, I moved around a lot). I found that I was putting a ton of weight on relationships because I was subconsciously expecting them to fill a ton of emotional needs. That ended up putting unreasonable pressure on my partners, and I felt unable to take things at the pace I wanted.

    Not sure if you’re in the same boat, but if you don’t feel like you have a solid group of (nonromantic) friends, I’d suggest considering that. As others have said–big feelings are normal enough, but when you have a solid support system in your life, it’s a lot easier to ride those waves.