Trigger warning: this could be upsetting
Shortly after graduating school, I hung out with someone I met once before and was raped and have some trauma in my background. It was aquaintance rape I guess? I barely knew him. There’s other bad stuff that’s happened that’s also horrifying, some of it worse than that.
I am biologically male and effeminate, but don’t want to have a female body. I don’t really feel like anything and sort of don’t care what people call me. I am slightly asexual just from trauma and don’t really feel like I exist in a way. It wouldn’t surprise me if I’m not around in another decade.
I support trans people, but feel like putting he/him next to my name sort of implies a more clear identity than I have or implies I care about how people label me. I don’t. I sort of barely exist and don’t like to imply otherwise. People can call me anything, I don’t care. I don’t see myself as female or a they or it. I don’t see myself as anything.
I almost want to go like (he/him/*) but I am afraid this would be disrespectful.
I truthfully would like to be (he/him/🫥/💀) which would obviously be seen as demeaning. I feel like anything other than normal parantheticals opens the door to a distracting conversation that I don’t want professionally and often don’t want personally. And I feel like nothing after my name is dog-whistle for trans-people-are-invalid.
(I don’t care about pronouns but support trans people) also seems disrespectful and sort of like “i want attention” and I really don’t.
I wish I could support trans people without having to label myself or my body or even bring up these topics. Is there a way to do that? There probably isn’t.
Comrade, the pronouns you are looking for are any/all. I know lots of nonbinary people who have that listed as their pronouns. Everyone I know understands those pronouns represent a flexible and nonspecific attitude towards one’s own gender, and they aren’t a dogwhistle or anything.
Also if you want to understand your gender identity better I know some queer discord servers that help questioning people. And comrade, it is plain to see you are questioning so hard you might as well be dressed as the Riddler.
I am not. I have never wanted boobs, worn lipstick, wanted hips. I just see myself as really gay and I feel like he/him implies a sort of normal dude ethos that i am not. If i could change, I’d be taller and have bigger shoulders. I just like dudes. I am posting on lemmy, why would I lie?
I havent lied at all on here… except for the username. This is clearly an alt account… 🫣
That’s an awfully binary way of looking at things. You’re talking as though boobs and lipstick, or he/him, are the only two options. Don’t you know there are thousands of tall, broad-shouldered, unfeminine genders? You could have xe/xim if you wanted. I don’t mean to imply that you do, but you’re clearly unhappy with he/him in some way. You shouldn’t assume you only have two choices. You’ve got billions of choices.
Alright.