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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/No-Yellow-4771 on 2023-10-07 02:09:58.

English isn’t my first language Fake names

So I’m(28f) engaged to Jake(27f) we have been together 5 years and I’m currently pregnant with our second child who’s due any day now. I get along with his family expect for Jenny who was dating Jake from ages 14 to 16 she ended moving in with them because of issues at home and she is also super close to his sister, Jake told me when they broke up it caused issues and he ended moving out at 17 to live with his uncle which Jenny saw as them choosing her.

Jake was no contact with his family when we got together but they ended up speaking again after we had our first child and Jenny had at that stage claimed them as her own family for as long as I’ve known her, she makes jokes about being the favourite and that if any of the siblings or their partners gets on her wrong side she’ll have them kicked out of the family like she did Jake (not true)

When we first met them jenny was extremely cold and rude to me she kept making comments about how disappointed she was in jake . Obviously it’s not gotten better she literally told me multiple times I’ll never be part of “their” family and keeps making out I’m just a fling that will disappear any day

My in laws had a get together tonight for dinner and a few drinks obviously with my being two days over due everyone was buzzing and giving me attention which pissed Jenny off. I came out of the bathroom at one stage and Jenny who clearly had one to many was waiting for me She told me that no matter how many times I get knocked up or even when I wear my white dress (she looked me up and down) tho I shouldn’t she’ll still be always more important because if they choose her over their own son they’ll definitely choose her over some slut who got knocked up after dating a guy for 6 weeks.

I told her actually I’m more important and I’m never going away because I’m the mother of their grandchildren and I’m gonna have their last name which Jake nor his parents ever give her and all she is to them is a charity case who needs to get over her ex (whole different story there) and she needs to see a therapist to work on her issues, than I told her sober up she looks pathetic

She than broke down crying and everyone came to see what was going on I told Jake I wanted to go home. His family are on my side after hearing the whole story but his sister is mad for what I told her and said it’s triggered her abandonment issues which will put Jenny back into a dark place

Edit to fix some grammar