Right? At this point I’m just sticking with WordPress because I can’t be bothered to migrate a bunch of sites off of it. Every year for the past decade it’s felt jankier. Tumblr’s backend has to be a dumpster fire for this to seem like a good idea.

My criticism aside, WP still has the convenience factor of being the open source web platform that has a plugin for just about any need. Whether those plugins are gonna break for site or introduce interesting new vulnerabilities is a different discussion.

I think “legalese” might be close to what you’re describing. It can still be ambiguous, but it seems to be our best attempt at avoiding that. Some forms of technical writing may also meet your definition.

I love this, but also found it hilarious - especially the towel as a helicopter blade trick and your description of it being “very undesirable for the fly.” I’m picturing your partner or housemate sighing and being like, “there they go again, herding flies.” I can definitely see it working though.

It’s funny to see you comment here because I was literally coming to this thread to mention that I see you in seemingly every comment chain and thus consider you “Lemmy-famous.”

Who wore it better: this black metal vocalist or Humpty Dumpty?

I used to wear pants that tight when I was a young man, but that’s when I had the body of a stick insect. His continuing to rock that look well into his beer belly era takes some balls (which we can pretty clearly see). Kudos to him.

I’m assuming we’re just talking about metal albums, given the community.

Here’s my top 3:

1. Trees of Eternity - Hour of the Nightingale

2. Draconian - Under a Godless Veil

3. Swallow the Sun - When a Shadow is Forced into the Light

Doom and related genres have always been my fave when it comes to metal, but I used to also listen to a lot of thrash and power metal. These days it’s pretty much all stuff that is doom or goth-ish.

Good to know. I’ve only been using Proton for like 4 months now and have thus far generally liked the experience, but that’s too bad about your experiences with the Drive client. I’ve used several paid business suites over the years through work and they all have their issues though. The only one that was generally solid was Google’s and I’ve gradually taken steps to remove their products from my life so there’s no going back to them for me. It was also almost 10 years ago since I last used Google’s paid email/Drive, so maybe it’s also gone to shit.

I’ve actually meant to try that but haven’t yet gotten around to it. I’d still love an official app though, as sometimes 3rd party solutions don’t work great with cloud storage (at least in my experience).

What we’re begging for: A Linux client for Proton Drive

What we get: A fucking Bitcoin wallet

Weird! Thanks for letting me know. I guess that’s what I get for using an app (Sync) that the developer abandons for months at a time.

5. Go straight to jail.

Edit: No idea what’s up with the formatting. In my app this shows as step 5 but it seems to render as step 1. Is the Lemmy DB done in CSS?

You’re welcome, and good luck!

Obviously I could be misreading it myself given that I’m only experiencing the circumstances via your post, but what seems to give away that he’s into you is just how you describe your interactions with him. The making eyes from across the room, gravitating toward you, paying special attention (especially offering to drive you home) - those are all pretty good signs, especially when taken together.

And yeah, I think it was mostly the use of the word “protect” that made me second guess his personality. He could just have a weird way of talking, but that wording puts my guard up a little. That isn’t to say that he’s a weirdo, but it certainly makes it worth approaching with a bit of caution - especially given the big age gap. Maybe he doesn’t necessarily chase younger women and he’s just enamored by you in particular. But, there are a looooot of older guys out there who prey on younger women because they feel that they can control them.

Also, you said you’re “not expecting anything serious.” Be careful there as well - he very well may have something different in mind. It’s a big age gap that I’d generally advise against for lots of reasons, and different life stages is a big part of that. He could be looking to settle down, start a family, etc. If you were in your early 20s I’d say run, but being that you’re both full adults and you might be ultimately looking for the same things, you do you. That is, as long as you’re not getting any red flags. Maybe a coffee date or whatever wouldn’t be a bad idea to see what vibes you’re getting from him in a different setting.

Again though, I’m a total outsider so take this all with a big grain of salt and go with your own gut.

Normally I’d say you’re both adults and he’s pretty clearly into you, so shoot your shot. Buuuuut … What was with that driving you home “to protect you”? That feels like at least a yellow flag to me, for potentially controlling behavior. I’d try to get a better read on that before jumping into anything.

I’ve never gotten around to actually reading up on this, but I’ve always suspected it has to do with the frequency of gratification. In real life you could study for 8 hours and, while you’ll learn a lot, you don’t get that dopamine (or whatever) hit until you complete the test, succeed at the project, etc. Games, however, are constructed so that you get little rewards at regular intervals to keep you hooked, like levels, new gear, etc. Some, particularly a lot of mobile games, obviously prey on susceptible people with that loop, but even “regular” games can get pretty addictive with that sort of progression.

(I’m far from anti-gaming. It’s my main hobby. This is just my guess at how the psychology behind it works.)

Ya know what? I’m happy for them.

Just chiming in to say I’ve also run into this a few weeks ago. If I recall correctly, I don’t think it happens all the time either.

Super cute, though the music sounded weirdly ominous to me. It sounded less baby otter playing with toys and more baby Cthulhu playing with humans as toys.

Ah! Glad to hear that. Yeah, starting new meds can be rough for the first while. Especially if you’re experiencing side effects (which in my experience at least vastly diminished over time). Good luck, and I hope you’re able to start getting some better sleep. That’ll make a huge difference once possible.

If you can’t sleep and are trying to kill time anyway, why not look into something like mindfulness meditation? It might help you keep some of those anxious thoughts in check to the point where you can actually focus on something to take your mind off of whatever is causing your issues.

I’m sure it’s not for everyone, but it helped me a lot when I was at my worst.

Also, you indicate that your anxiety and depression are due to some personal issues (which it sounds like will no longer be an issue in a month). If I’m understanding that correctly, that sucks for the time being but I’m glad to hear it has an expiration date. If those are feelings you deal with chronically, however, and you have the means to do so, I highly suggest trying to find professional help. The right meds can make an absolute world of difference, and talk therapy can help you straighten out how you approach those feelings.

Whatever route you take, I hope this passes for you soon and you start to feel so much better. Those feelings suck, but life can absolutely get better.