IDK, it’s not impossible that someone who was born in the 80s will live go be freakishly old and outlive all the 90s kids.

not probable, but who knows, maybe they somehow avoided eating plastic based baby food or some shit.

really? they’re almost as common as cigarette butts once were now. are you a hermit?

my ex spent time in a woman’s prison in Georgia. she used to describe pretty much exactly this. among many other horrible things. it’s funny, in America there’s this common perception that the other prisoners are the scary part of prison. no, it’s the guards. they would find any excuse to beat people and rape was a nearly daily occurrence for some.

the majority of her time served was before her trial or sentencing or anything. there is shockingly little difference between how we treat a person arrested, but still presumed innocent, and someone found guilty and in prison.

again, easy to say, hard to do.

what does that actually look like moment to moment? what do people do differently between those that do and those that don’t succeed in this? how can you teach something you don’t know because no one taught you?

what does an empathy lesson look like?

it’s a hard problem and we really do need to figure out some specifics if we want to make any real progress.

ok ok ok, i have a theory on where her head was at.

i think it might have been about current messaging around “stop teaching girls is their job to avoid being sexually assaulted and start teaching boys that it’s not ok to do”.

I think in all honestly part of the reason we ended up in this paradigm is because parents generally try to teach what they know. for the most part, in the past men weren’t really aware of how common rape was, or didn’t care. men probably didn’t see it as a thing to talk to their girls about. it was also something they likely had no relevant experience in teaching about. so men didn’t see it a important to teach anything about it to girls. and it didn’t seem likely to negatively affect their son… women on the other hand clearly saw the need to prepare young girls for this reality. so they teach what they know. what little that can do from their perspective with their power. moms default to imparting the defense mechanisms they have built to survive in this terrible state of affairs.

so, my thought is that this is a mother trying to teach her son not to be a predator. but she doesn’t even know what predators think to make them do that. she has no idea what to say that might make her son not do something that she doesn’t understand and doesn’t know if her son has or ever will feel those things. it’s a hard problem. it’s easy to say that we need to put the onus on men to not be predators, but how do we turn that into reality without sounding like this? what does a parent actually say to a young boy that will carry more weight than “don’t do that”.

oh, that was a very different thing. in fact, i think it’s a shame that public reaction to that situation killed dolphin research.

there’s a really really good episode of radiolab on this. the experiment was actually extremely promising and groundbreaking. they had a dolphin spending his own free time practicing in the mirror making human words with his blowhole. he used the water to try and make a sort of lip, rotating the blowhole in and out of the water to shape the sounds. this dolphin was able to understand spoken language and was observably getting frustrated at his inability to say what he clearly wanted to.

the dolphin jerking thing happened because this was a dolphin actively in the throws of puberty. dolphins are intelligent, willful, occasionally evil animals. in nature they will masturbate themselves on shellfish and do other heinous sexually deviant things by human standards. the dolphin in the study was showing tremendous progress, but started exhibiting strong sexual urges. it got to the point that he was completely uncooperative. they jerked him off because he was cooperative after. there is no reason to believe the dolphin was explicitly attracted to the researcher and the researcher has said that she wasn’t attracted to the dolphin.

this story was highly sensationalized. so much so that it completely overshadowed the fact that THE DOLPHIN COULD TALK. he wasn’t very good at it, but that’s only because he lacked the hardware. to this day no one can get funding for dolphin research because of this. it left that much of a stink on the entire field. we have made almost no meaningful progress in this field since. THE DOLPHIN COULD FUCKING TALK AND ALL WE CARE ABOUT IS HOW GROSS IT IS THAT THEY JERKED IT OFF.

also very different from chimps raised by citizens with no real plan. this was an organized and funded academic study with many people working on it and many eyes watching it. this was not one of the things that we did to animals in labs at the time that was problematic. there were other things that actually were worth getting upset over.

alternatively, I’ve heard it’s a good emulator.

i guess i just assumed paleness 😅. I’ve never looked into it properly. just read a lot of stuff in that general setting. have had a lot of context clues to build a definition around.

but yeah, it’s definitely more of a status thing. just like nails. I sometimes wish people were more aware of the history and cultural implications of the trend and fashions they follow. long nails are a status symbol because the show you don’t do manual labor. so i honestly get kind of annoyed when modern people with super long nails struggle to do their job because they’re unknowingly trying to flex that they don’t need that kind of job. but you can’t very well get that context all across when trying to train someone and they get mad that they can’t do a thing with their 3 inch nails. and you’d be a dickhead to try.

i hate fashion most of the time because it’s like 99% all just about flexing wealth and status and creating a visual representation of hierarchy. the “experts” who follow it don’t know the historical context or where these styles come from or what they actually mean until the very tippy top where it stops making sense to anyone else. those people just look at it and embrace with open arms that fashion is their way of separating themselves from the poors. the more i learn about it the more it makes me sad about the human condition.

for most cultures in most of history, sadly the common standard of beauty was largely defined by wealth. our lizard brains want a partner that can raise a child well. best advantage you can give a child is tons of money. always has been.

the horny brain will actively chemically supresses our “ick” reaction. we’re literally less capable of being grossed out when having sex.

mine just attached under my toilet seat. the water line connects to the existing toilet water line. it came with the fitting i needed and was easier than Legos to set up.

think i payed like $25 on Amazon like 5 years ago. i try not to buy from Amazon anymore, but I’m sure there are many reasonable options out there elsewhere.

eh, is got a little valve and i just turn it all the way. i like the cleanness.

what do you mean? there’s a million refillable options out there. have been for years. the popularity of disposables is mostly about convenience, habit (it’s similar to buying cigarettes), and laziness. it’s a great example of how much people just don’t give a shit. it’s actually waaaay cheaper in the long run to use a refillable one. gives a better experience with more flavor options too. but it’s maybe 5% less convenient to use. therefore only about 5% of users go for that.

i fucking hate human nature.

i have like 5 friends in trying to convince away from the disposables right now. I’m 3 years in, and may have one that would be willing to try it i bought it for him. it’s so fucking hard to change anyone’s buying habits. i don’t get why. these are all people that SAY they care about the environment. then i show them an easy to fix way that they are FUCKING INCREDIBLY AWFUL to the environment and they just shrug…

oh, there’s fields and fields of entire cars just sitting in all inhabited remote places. it’s becoming a real problem in Alaska. there’s towns there literally getting buried in dead cars because it’s too expensive to take them anywhere else.

generally if you think “i wonder if this type of thing is getting disposed of properly or if it’s a huge ecological problem” the answer is always the latter. the humans in charge don’t care about the environment. that’s not profitable.

what do you mean pairing? what kind of os do you plan to put on the mini pc? the biggest hurdle is going to be hdcp compliance with any legal streaming service. something like kodi on the other hand, just works like any other pc? a mini pc is just that. a mini pc. there’s nearly infinite method to connect streaming services to a pc. I have a Plex server, but it doesn’t play nice with all content, so honestly, i usually just use my network storage and pull things straight from the file browser. load them into media player classic with madvr.

I know there’s newer systems that do fancier things, but I’m content. I need to upgrade my nas to be better able to transcode x265 video streams. that’s s big drawback on Plex for me. my biggest use case is watching things virtually with friends. it’s how i watch movies with people. my server can current encode a single x265 video stream pretty well, but the second it has more than one client it chugs. forget it if 4 people want a 4k movie. I would need a crazy beefy rig to run that. it also won’t convert hdr without paying. most of my friends aren’t trying to watch on an hdr screen.

so, we’re back to me streaming via discord screenshare. it’s not the best, but at least i don’t need to keep a separate 4k hdr copy of movie for myself and a 1080p x264 copy for Plex that way. mad vr will even handle the hdr conversion for me when I stream.

it works well enough, though I’m open to suggestions as well. it needs to be easy for the clients to use. it can be hard for me, that’s fine, but jellyfin is too much for most of my friends and family. Plex is already pushing it.

fair in this context refers to paleness basically. though, it’s often meant in the same way that someone today might say “she’s thicc” and just mean “she’s attractive” in a more general sense. fairness meant beauty to European high society at the time. aside from the obvious racial connotations, it also implies that she has spent very little time outdoors and has been free of disfiguring diseases, so high of status. it generally carries a lot of implications beyond just “white” and “clear skin”. it captures everything that a European nobleman of the time would find attractive in one word.

yeah, but that’s a whole generation after this. most games were colorful by then. especially once hdr started to come around.

games like crysis 3 and far cry 4 really helped break the trend.

I’d say crysis is almost the exact inflection point. look at it, it still has a lot of that brown aesthetic, but it’s colorful and has bright skies and giant lens flairs. the lens flairs especially became part of the norm moving forward.

not to be too stereotypically reddit butt…

a bidet makes it a lot easier 😅. it shoots a little water up in there like a mini douche every time. helps get those last little stubborn bits too if there are any.

oh fuck, now we’re getting back into those chimps that were raised as humans by private citizens. there’s examples of them masturbating to human porn and being sexually disinterested in their own species. it’s honestly uncomfortable to think about.

you know what? my parents didn’t tell me not to believe anything on the Internet. they taught me to be wary of information sources and how to be skeptical in a productive way.

the people that don’t have these skills are the ones that told you not to believe anything on the Internet. they don’t know how to tell what’s real and what’s not without their priest there to do it for them. now these people are all on the Internet without protection or guidance. the children that learned this behavior from them are here too. we had entire populations for generations that based all of their beliefs on what the local priest told them before the Internet. even after the printing press, many people relied on their religious leaders to interpret what was written for them.

for the most part, any non urban population would have burned you alive for trying to think for yourself for generations. now we’re all surprised that they aren’t very good calling out bullshit.

it’s almost like religion is often designed around letting the powerful control people. it WAS the system of hierarchy before capitalism. it’s where we got our social classes and kings from. it’s for the powerful to manipulate others. it’s working as intended.

there just isn’t the money in that kind of product anymore. studio porn in general isn’t doing great. especially among younger viewers.

I worked for hustler broadcast for a bit, so i can confidently say that you’re not wrong. we would still occasionally air some of those older more serious movies, but basically anything since 2000 has been more on the goofy side. that said, there are some genuinely funny ones out there. they aren’t very good as porn, but they were my favorites. like there was one where Trump and Kim jong un captured Hilary Clinton in North Korea and they all had sex. the trump and the Kim were terrible, but the Hilary genuinely kind of looked the part, if Hillary Clinton had massive fake boobs. there was an Obama one from 2008 that was incredibly racist. it basically had Obama coming into the White House and revealing that he was actually a big bad gangster rapper, or whatever, here to fuck all your white bitches. I think there were three of those.

honestly, there’s some high concept only fans out there if you’re willing to pay. I know of one couple that does a legit travel blog with travel sex interludes. you might also find enjoyment in erotic literature if you haven’t given that much of a shot. the Internet stuff of very different from the published stuff, maybe give them both a shot?

all of this kind of comes together to really get in the way of high concept studio porn. women with intelligence, self respect, talent, or real ambition don’t go into studio porn. it’s the toxic old way to get into porn. anyone that might have been good enough to actually perform well in those movies either goes for softcore stuff that they can claim isn’t porn, or will self start on onlyfans. honestly, i bet we’ll start to see more of that kind of content come out of the new porn media world. these days we’re seeing more and more collectives and small companies operate through onlyfans. for better and worse. an optimistic take from someone that has worked on the back end of that industry for you is that these companies might be perfect for that. especially the ones that operate more like streamer houses. where it’s just a co-op of creators and maybe a little suuport staff or a manager. that’s the kind of situation i think we’ll start seeing low budget high concept porn with better production than it used to have because it’s easier to be better for cheaper these days.

holy hell that’s so much.